Should I or shouldn’t I? I want to say something, I know what to say, but I’m too nervous or afraid to say it. Why? Because I don’t want to rock the boat. I’m worried that she/he won’t be able to handle the truth (or want to hear it). I don’t want to hurt her/his feelings. I don’t want to piss them off. I can’t handle any bad vibes between us. I hate confrontation…
The last thing we want to do is ruin the peace in a situation like this. After all, we have to work with, live with, play with, deal with, and communicate with this person/these people, etc., so it’s better to just zip the lips and keep quiet, right? At least that’s what we tell ourselves, isn’t it?
There are some that don’t have any trouble saying what’s on their minds. I admire people who can do this. So what if we actually did say the things that we think about saying, but are afraid to say?
When deciding whether or not to say what’s on our mind or filter it out for the person (or group) we are talking to, why not go ahead and just say it?
We all know what happens if we don’t get it out. There’s actually not all peace in keeping quiet. The thoughts twist and turn inside. The feelings build. The pressure rises. Then not only do we lose our cool but we can lose our perspective too. And then when we finally do speak up, we blow, and the truth of what we really had to say has completely flown out the window.
When we’re being real and speaking in meaningful ways, we shouldn’t be afraid to tell someone how we truly feel because when we’re coming from this state, we’re not thinking about whether what we’re doing is right or wrong, appropriate or not appropriate. We can act completely natural and not be so nervous about telling someone how we really feel or asking for something we need. We can say it sooner rather than later… before those feelings take over. Speak up when things are being seen more clearly instead of clouded with frustration… Release and be at peace.
So say what you want to say. Maybe if we all started saying the things we think but don’t say, the lines of communication wouldn’t get crossed or be full of interference. Just remember to say it carefully, with concern, and with a motive that’s constructive and not destructive.
Well… maybe. : )
“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.” ~Shannon L. Alder