Wise Words of Advice from A to Z

A grudge is a heavy thing to carry. ~Unknown

Be the change you wish to see in the world.  ~Ghandi

Control your emotions or they will control you. ~Chinese Proverb

Don’t pretend to be something you aren’t.  ~Aesop

E‘er you remark another’s sin, bid your own conscience look within.  ~Ben Franklin

Focus on what’s right in your world instead of what’s wrong.  ~Unknown

Give credit where credit is due.  ~M. Floy

Happiness depends on ourselves.  ~Aristotle

It’s okay to make a mistake, as long as you learn from it.  ~Unknown

Judging people by appearances is like judging yourself by your own shadow. ~Vikrant Parsal

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. ~Mark Twain

Laugh every day; it’s like inner jogging.  ~Unknown

Mind your p’s and q’s.  ~English Proverb

Never spend time with people who don’t respect you.  ~Maori

Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.  ~Dalai Lama

Practice what you preach.  ~Unknown

Quarrel not at all. No man resolved to make the most of himself can spare time for personal contention. ~Abraham Lincoln

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. ~Dalai Lama

Strike while the iron is hot.  ~Chaucer

Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes furthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. ~Dale Carnegie

Underpromise, overdeliver. ~Tom Peters

Value your words. Each one may be the last. Stanislaw Lec

When what you want doesn’t happen, learn to want what does.  ~Arabic

X, Malcolm ~ If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.

You become what you think about.  ~Buddha

Zeal without knowledge is fire without light. ~Thomas Fuller

The Sunday Night Blues

A new survey of more than 20,000 workers by Monster.com reveals more than 80% of workers suffer Sunday-night insomnia due to work anxiety. Many of those who took the survey say their anxiety rises straight after Sunday night dinner as Monday morning looms on the horizon.

Experts say Sunday-night blues is more common than most of us realize. Craig Marker, assistant professor with the Center for Psychological Studies at Nova Southeastern University was quoted as saying,

”It’s anticipatory worrying. Anticipatory worrying is so common in many areas of life and not just confined to work related anxiety. We tend to find ourselves getting worked up far in advance of actual events, anticipating all the things that could possibly go wrong. Sometimes getting so anxious it can result in a full blown panic attack. Then, in the future, knowing how scary a panic attack can be we worry about having a panic attack – which in itself can trigger the sensations of an attack. Then we worry about worrying about having a panic attack and so on. You get the picture!” (Source: How to prevent unnecessary worry, anxiety and sleepless nights every Sunday)

I wrote about how I experience my own Sunday Night Blues/Anxiety on one of my blog posts a year and a half ago…

It’s Sunday night and it’s hitting… The Sunday Night Blues, that is.

The process goes like this: Friday at about 6pm, my weekend begins. I am so ready to relax, go out and grab a bite to eat (the kitchen is closed for business on Friday night. No cooking dinner, only snacks are available), come home and chill out, watch a movie, do some writing, spend time with the fam…

Saturday morning comes. A good day to do house projects, maybe put in a couple hours of work, do chores, go for a run or a ride, catch up with friends, date night with my hubby, etc…

Onto Sunday. My day to sleep in. Make a big breakfast (or go out for breakfast), write, go for another run or ride, take a dip in the pool, read, etc. Sometimes I roll out of bed and throw on a pair of shorts with my sleep t-shirt and throw my hair up in a messy ponytail, not even caring what I look like (yeah I know, L-A-Z-Y). And then as Sunday afternoon starts to make its escape and evening descends, it hits… that terrible, overwhelming case of Sunday night blues.

When I was in high school, Sunday night was terrible. This meant the end of sleeping in, no homework, and hanging with friends. Sunday night caused my brain to switch into dread mode thinking ahead to a week of getting up for the next five days at 6:00am, boring classes, ridiculous teenage drama, homework, and tests.

As an adult I still go through this, not exactly like high school, but there’s still that sinking feeling that another weekend is over, good old Monday morning is looming, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it from rearing its ugly head.

Messages from my brain begin their attack with all the things I have to do in the soon-to-be-here week. Usually an upset stomach ensues or a headache forms just above my eyebrows. The peaceful easy feeling starts to disintegrate and at bedtime the insomnia takes over. I watch TV or read in the hopes that my body and mind will shut down. But usually the glowing numbers displayed on my alarm clock just keep marching ahead: 1am, 1:30, 2:00, 2:30… zzzzzzz…

Next thing I know that dreaded beeping sound yanks me out of my comatose happy place. Irritated, I silence the screaming little pain-in-the-you-know-what device. Then lie back into my pillow allowing the sudden turbo charged heart rate to calm down as I wipe the sandmen (or as my kids call them, eye boogers) out of the corners of my eyes. Then with an irritated sigh I unenthusiastically remove myself from the cocoon of my warm soft sheets and blanket to greet yet another Monday morning. You’d think I’d be used to it by now, huh? Well, maybe some day…